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Infidelity - Could it be ruining your marriage?

October 24th, 2006

Well, I hope not, but if you heard my guest, Ruth Houston author or Is He Cheating on You? -829 Telltale Signs, you may be the last to know! Ms. Houston has appeared on the Today Show, Good Day New York, and other shows and is often quoted in newspapers like The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal as well as many radio appearances - and it was a delight having her on.

What a great guest she was and how much I learned - who knew how sneaky cheaters can be and what an epidemic it is - between 38 and 53 million men cheat, and 26 million women. They cheat for different reasons though (no surprise there). Men for excitement and sex, women for emotional intimacy and understanding. For men it doesn’t seem to matter if they are happy at home, they may still cheat. Women, on the other hand, only cheat when their spouse doesn’t provide them with the closeness and understanding they need.

 If you are thinking that this may be your spouse, do yourself a favor and go to Ruth Houston’s website www.infidelityexpert.com There you will find out what to look for (not just the obvious), how it effects the family, what to do to make sure he doesn’t cheat (hint: (more…)

Forensic Psychologist Dr. Kathy Seifert on How Children Become Violent

October 18th, 2006

It is National Safe Schools Week!    (www.safeschoolsweek.org) -

October 18th Show Guest Kathryn Seifert, Ph.D. author of,

HOW CHILDREN BECOME VIOLENT: Keeping Your Kids our of Gangs, Terrorist Organizations, and Cults

I hope that you had a chance to listen to what Dr. Seifert had to say about her new book and about violence and children.  It does seem to come back to you already know: If children grow up in a stable loving environment, they won’t resort to violence when frustrated or angry.

Life happens for all of us and sometimes it gets messy.  But if you have spent time with your children and gave them love and positive attention when they were young, they most likely will be fine and are able to sort out right from wrong. Though what about those children that never got their needs met at home? Dr. Kathy suggests that it is the schools job to identify these children, so we as a society can get them help, before they resort to violence. Her work in juvenile jails has taught her that if you don’t get the kid help before he or she is an adolesent (or earlier) then often it is too late.

Dr. Seifert agrees that in our culture, which glamorizes violence and gives too much fame to the villian, we are sending the wrong message. Children from troubled backgrounds are not capable of deciphering what is right and wrong and how to get the attention they so desperately need. Resorting to violence, unfortunately, usually gets them heard.

To learn more about children and violence and what you can do, go to her website at www.drkathyseifert.com  You will also find information about her and her book there.

Thanks for checking in here and listening  on Wednesdays, and don’t forget              

                  ~ To Make Good Choices ~

STRESSED-OUT GIRLS: Helping Them Thrive in the Age of Pressure

October 11th, 2006

Great show with guest author, Dr. Roni Cohen-Sandler, talking about her new book Stressed-Out Girls: Helping them Thrive in the Age of Pressure.

It is a well-researched book that is of enourmous help for parents and educators. Talking with  Dr. Cohen-Sandler was informative and enjoyable.  Many of our girls are stressed out. There is a lot of pressure on them in this culture they are growing up in.  Reading this book will help you understand how girls feel about the issues in their life, the huge pressure to achieve and look good and how they handle it. You will also learn how to recognize when something is really wrong (as opposed to just moodiness) so you can step in and find help.

Some things to keep in mind:

  • Don’t put added pressure on them by demanding they overachieve. They don’t need to be perfect.
  • Do applaud them for what they accomplish. They need to know we are proud of them.
  • Build on their natural talents and inner strengths by allowing them to define what those might be.
  • They may not want to talk with you, but be patient. Eventually what is on their mind will come out.
  • They need us. Be involved, be available  - But don’t hover!
  • Remember that they are not us and we can’t live through them. They have to make their own mistakes and we can’t confuse our fears, failures and accomplishments with theirs.

To get a copy of her book go to any  bookstore or to her website www.ronicohensandler.com and order it there.

It is a must read for parents of all girls - especially ages 10 and up. Great book and Thanks to Dr. Roni Cohen-Sandler for joining me and sharing her work with all of us. And don’t forget to help your children to

                       ~Make Good Chooices ~

Preventing School Violence with Speak-up and Safe Schools Week, and Moms working from home

October 4th, 2006

 October 4th

Terrific information on today’s show and I thank Daniel Gross for coming on at the top of the hour and letting us know about Speak-Up.

Call 1-866-SPEAK-UP to report a weapon threat at school. If you know about a student carrying a weapon at school, or talking about bringing a weapon to school… If you hear someone threatening violence with a weapon…If you know about someone’s plans to hurt anyone at school…Call 1-866-SPEAK-UP. That’s 1-866-773-2587. Don’t ignore it. Don’t assume it’s a joke. No threat is a joke. Don’t try to solve the problem yourself. Tell a trusted adult at school or call 1-866-SPEAK-UP to anonymously report the threat. The call is toll-free. Your tip will be transcribed and forwarded to the proper local authorities so the threat can be resolved safely. In case of an immediate emergency, please call 911. You have the power to prevent school violence by just reporting weapons or threats of violence at school. Use your voice. Call 1-866-SPEAK-UP. It’s anonymous and free.

 For more information got to www.speakup.com or www.paxusa.org,   

and October 15 -21st is Safe Schools Week. For more information and to let your school know please go to www.safeschoolsweek.org.

 Could we be any more overwhelmed and disgusted at the recent school shootings? What is going on here? Copycats? Men looking for recognition to validate their pain by giving others more pain so they can make the headlines and be remembered?Possibly.  I think we should stop giving the killer his day of fame. He should be nameless and there shouldn’t be so much attention on his life and rewarding his violence with instant fame.  I know, I know. We have a right to know about these guys and certainly it is what journalism is about; reporting what happened and who committed the crime. But are these guys (yes, they are usually men) doing it for the posthumous recognition? I think so and so do many experts.I will have a show on this soon and will post it here. For now, it is something to think about.  And please let me know your thoughts on this. I would love to hear from you ~

On Working Moms:

 Lauralyn Radlein was very helpful and chock full of information about working from home and the careers that are available, especially through Avon. Many woman are now working from home to be able to spend time (more…)

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