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Brooklyn Botanic Garden Plant Sale May 2nd and 3rd (www.bbg.org). If you have never been to BBG - go! It is exquisite and there is plenty to do. The plant sale is a special event and what a terrific place to buy plants. It also gives you a good reason to go. Go on their website for directions and enjoy the day

What a great book - Remodel This! A Woman’s Guide to Planning and Surviving the Madness of a Home Renovation (www.remodelthis.net). I loved speaking with Robyn Roth, one of the books authors today.If you are even thinking about any renovations, this book is a must. Both Laura Meyer and Robyn Roth are lawyers and have survived the madness of home renovation and are expert at giving advice. And this is really full of advice. Many things that you have never thought of - they have. And don’t take lightly how this might effect your relationship - it can be a true test. And if you are anything like the rest of us, you have already made a few mistakes in the past with contractors and workers. Don’t do it again - I won’t. Reading this has taught me quite a lot, and I highly suggest it. It is also fun to read. Go on their website listed above to find out more and order a copy. You will be glad you did! Don’t Forget to Make Good Choices

I want to thank Dr. Kathy Seifert (www.drkathyseifert.com) for joining me today. Dr. Seifert is the author of How Children Become Violent -  a terrific book that helps us understand how we got to this point with so many angry young adults, and what we can -and need - to do about it.

Although it is hard to understand Monday’s tragic shootings and deaths at Virginia Tech, listening to Dr. Seifert starts us on the path. Yet if you are the parent of one of these students or a family member of anyone who lost their life, it may never make sense. As Dr. Seifert explained, we need to make sure that the young children get the help they need to work on any obvious problems so that it doesn’t escalate to this massive disaster.

-I believe strongly that we should not publish the names of the shooters or talk extensively about them in the media. Dissecting the crime and their intentions is fine -  talking about what we can do and how this happened and why this young man got this way - fine, but without giving out the name and talking about his life. Just call him the shooter.

 One of the things that Dr. Seifert and other psychologists have told us is that fame and recognition  - even in death - is a motivating factor for these troubled killers. They feel they are not being heard and they know that a mass killing will get them the fame and attention they have sought. It is a “you are going to hear from me” factor. Let’s not reward this horrific behaviour. It will only cause others  who are equally disturbed to “outdo” his shootings to get the attention that our society gives to these mentally unstable, attention seeking men (yes men, did you ever hear of a woman or girl doing anything like this?)

Thanks again to Dr. Seifert for joining me and Don’t Forget to Make Good Choices ~

How is your marriage? OKay - you really don’t have to answer that, just think about it. Are you on the right track? Did you expect something different? Did you think he/she would make your life happy? Is it working out or do you need to rethink your marriage goals.

Many of you may have read Tracie Rozhon’s article in the NY Times (March 11th) about couples who are choosing to sleep in different bedrooms. It is not that they are unhappy in their marriage, they just sleep better. Well, this made many talk about independence in marriage and if it really is Okay to “be separate” while still together.

Today I am going to talk with Stephen Frueh, PhD who is a marriage coach and his upcoming book With These Rings (www.withtheserings.com). He is going to talk to us about the new and the old marriage model and maybe help you realize where you are, and if you need to look at your marriage differently.

So join me today from 1-2 on am 1110 WTBQ - and I will help you Make Good Choices ~